The most important resolution to make for health and happiness in 2020 is to change your mindset. This allows your physical health, your emotional wellbeing and your entire life to become what you desire. This is where true lasting progress begins. Many people take action and experience success, but those that change and continue to improve throughout their life are those that eliminate their negative thoughts, the “dieting” behaviors and instead learn to accept and love themselves as they are now. That may be tough to hear, or it may not make sense because you think that you do love yourself. However if you are not where you would like to be in your health, career, relationships or any other important area of your life, it is because of a deep rooted subconscious belief that you are not deserving of the best, in the area that you are struggling.
This is also why relapse occurs in those that do make changes. Does it make any sense that someone can dedicate themselves to a nutrition and exercise plan, lose a large amount of weight, feel better than ever and then, after a period of time, gain it all back and then some? No! It makes zero sense and it is not simply because they want to eat certain foods that they have been avoiding or that they want to sleep in as opposed to get up and go to the gym. It is because they do not believe in their core that this new version of themselves is really them; they do not believe they deserve all the benefits they have gained. It shows up in the way they speak to themselves and it is demonstrated by the fact that many people hold on to those old clothes that have gotten too big for them. Actions like these do not allow the emotional or physical environment that they live in to support them. We also know that we often hear unsupportive comments from those around us, often those that are closest to us.
Maybe this is starting to make sense, because you know how easy it is to do something in an area where you believe yourself, as opposed to one that you do not. What do you do about it? Is it going to be hard? Can you really work on something that has been ingrained in you for your whole life? I am happy to say from experience that no it is not hard; and since you were able to create a mindset that does not serve you, it is possible to create an even more powerful mindset that will serve you. Let’s talk about how.
1.Figure out what you want and why you want it. The what and the why need to be important, for example: if the “what” is weight loss and the “why” is to look great in a bathing suit, wedding dress, etc., it is not a big enough why. A big enough why is avoiding a heart attack at a young age (which your parent suffered from), running around with your kids or grandkids, feeling energetic and healthy instead of lethargic and sick.
2.Make it tangible. Write it out and visualize it. Create the scenario you want, write it out in the present tense and read it to yourself out loud at least twice per day in front of a mirror. When you do this, you cannot help but get excited about these goals and you are affirming them to yourself, which is a necessary part of the process. It is almost impossible not to visualize the outcome while you are affirming it. A vision board is also a great tool to utilize here to make it even more meaningful. At this point do not get focused on or hung up about how it will come together, just believe that it is coming together now.
3.Remain positive no matter what. You need to monitor your thoughts and counteract every negative thought with a positive thought. Those old thoughts will come up and that is okay. Take positive action against them and they will show up less and less frequently. This also means that when things do not turn out the way you want them to, you cannot give up. Life will happen, negativity will come up against you and every time that you don’t feed into it you will make your mind a little more bulletproof. Consciously surrounding yourself with positive people and people that you admire will make this much easier. Get with good people who support each other and raise each other up!
4.Repeat. Once this becomes a habit, you will intuitively do it to move forward in every area that you want to improve. This can and will work no matter what your current circumstances are if you practice it daily. Not sometimes, all the time! There are tons of resources for more information on this topic- books, articles, You Tube videos, even just Googling how to write and use positive affirmations is a free and simple place to start.
I hope that this helps and does not sound too overwhelming. These 4 points are the best tools that I can provide, based upon my personal and professional experience, to attain your goals and desires for a healthier life. I recommend that you start with a clean slate and create in your mind what you want, affirm it in the positive, present tense and do not let hiccups, distractions or other’s negativity take you off course. It is a new year and a new decade. Now is the time to live your best life!